What Is the Proper Funeral Etiquette

Planning to attend a service at funeral homes Bethlehem, PA? If anything, a funeral is an event where you have to be at the best of your behavior. But unfortunately, most people don’t know much about funeral etiquette, aside from dressing up in black. 

We have compiled a comprehensive guide on how to behave, and what to do and bring to a funeral event. Let’s dive in! 

1. How to dress 

As a funeral is a formal event, choose an outfit that doesn’t attract the attention of the guests. Darker colors, especially black, are most appropriate. 

Times are changing and you are no longer expected to wear completely formal clothing when attending a funeral. If you use common sense and dress to honor the deceased and their family, you will be fine. 

But never wear bright or shiny colors or anything that says, “look at me!” 

2. Should I attend the service? 

If you’re invited to the event, then ensure your presence is on time. The family will be honored that you chose to come to pay your respects, no matter how briefly or long ago you knew the decedent. 

Even if you are accompanying a friend or family member as a support person, you will still be welcome. Your attendance at the funeral is a way to show support for those who are grieving while honoring the life of their loved one. 

3. What to do if I can’t attend the event? 

If you are unable to go to the funeral, let the family know. You shouldn’t have to contact them right away. Take your time and if possible, let them know in a personal way. For instance, send a text, flowers, or a gift, or see them in person if you’re close. 

In any event, be sure to send a condolence card, mention your regret at being unable to attend, and express your sympathy and support. 

4. Should I bring flowers? A gift? 

It is acceptable to bring a small gift or card to the funeral but it is most considerate to send it or drop it by another time. Also, you may send flowers to the funeral home or the deceased’s home. 

5. Should I bring my children? 

Generally, no, if they are too young. But if the children knew or were close to the departed soul, there’s no harm in bringing them to the event.   

Children grieve too, so they need to attend. However, if a child objects to going to the funeral it might be best for them to not attend. Be sure to dig a little deeper and ask about why they do not want to go. 

6. When should I arrive at the funeral? 

Plan to arrive about 15 minutes early. This will give you plenty of time to park, sign the guest book, say hello to a few acquaintances, and find your seat. 

7. Where should I sit at the funeral? 

The first few rows at the front are almost always reserved for the family and inner-circle friends. Try to sit somewhere in the middle rows. But if you arrive late, just sit anywhere you can – including the last row at funeral homes Bethlehem, PA.